How I Find Balance With My Work

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I took a chance at something that is changing my life and it has nothing to do with money.  Well it indirectly has something to do with money but here goes.

So here’s the back story.  Back in 2012 I signed on with this lady to become a distributor with a company called It Works!  I was gong ho and I just knew that I was going to make a lot of money with this company at 30 years old because in my mind, “Who doesn’t want to lose weight and get fit?”  I was in for a a rude awakening and with little to no training or mentorship, I was lost, so not even three months after I begin I quit.

I’m generally not a quitter, but I had no idea what I was doing and my “upline” was not helpful.  By this time I focused more on finishing school, I had just moved into my house and I was adjusting to my life as single mom.  Divorce had been finalized in September of 2011, so I was a free woman, but I was scared as hell.

Fast forwarding six years, here I am now, 36 and I’m an It Works! Distributor again but with a FAR BETTER team and support system.  The things that my leaders poor into us to keep us motivated is what I needed in 2012.  All I can think about is how might my life been a little different had I stuck with the company?  But I don’t have time to be concerned about that now, I can only make the best of everything I’m currently doing?

But to keep myself organized and not overworked I have implemented a “Pearl List”.  The FIVE things I must do daily in order to reach my goals.

  1. Self-Development:  It is so important to have my time alone with God and communicate with him the desires of my heart.  Reading devotionals and praying keeps me grounded because I know that everything happens is his timing and not mine.  I cannot be selfish in my efforts.  Through praying and affirmations I know that there is a time and place for everything, so I’m running my own race, keeping God first and being realistic about my success.
  2. Messaging:  In network marketing I contact anywhere from 30-50 people daily or I at least try to.  I follow up with potential customers that have interacted with me on social media to gauge their interest and open up the lines of communication.  I will be met with some no’s and disinterest, and I understand that I may even be blocked or ignored.  But that does not deter me because failure is a display that I am trying.  People are paying attention and pretty soon that NO will turn into a YES.  I’m very OPTIMISTIC.
  3. Intentional Posting:  I try to start my day off with inspiration and affirmation.  I know that no one is going to believe in me more that me and even though I have support from others, I have to be PUMPED every single day to handle ALL of my tasks at hand—school, business, and personal. I share opportunities to try any of my 40+ plant-based products and even showcase the blessing of being able to work from home when I feel like it.  I grasp the concept that what ever I put into my business, with God’s blessings it will be returned to me.  I intend to reap what I sow. And lastly, my children are my why and my push.  So I always talk about the highlights of my life and my children because they keep me grounded.  I’m a business woman, but I VERY grounded.
  4. Networks:  I try to keep my content reel in my Facebook (@LaTilyaWilliams and @tilyarealeyes) updated because sometimes people just like simple pictures, quick stories, questions, and polls.  I can’t lie…my stories be LIT!!!! I do the same for my IG (@docwilliams81 and @tilyarealeyes).  I know, I know 4 accounts…absolutely and once you visit them all you’ll understand why.  I’m also trying to figure out Captivate…so pray for me saints…LOL!
  5. Expand:  I will send a friend request with the quickness.  I can’t lie though I was apprehensive at first but with the guidance of my business mentor, she said, “Add them, expand your network because that give you more exposure”.  She was right and as my numbers continue to grow I am excited about the things that are to come.

I have labeled this time in my life as my season of yes because I feel really good about what’s going with my blogs, book projects, and business.  I am relying on…

  • my experiences because I’m willing to share my missteps and what works for me
  • my patience because I’ve learned that hastened moves and immediacy can ruin me when not well thought out
  • my ability to model and be an example so that people see that I am reliable and can be trusted.

I leaped back into the business and the good in my life is being returned to me.  I have heard and will continue to say since I heard this… Your season has nothing to do with a set day, time, or age.  When it is your time the opportunity will knock.  Ready or not you have to decide to trust his will or your own.

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Thing 3: Coaching Myself

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Today I sat, I read, I prayed, and I listened to what my mind, body and spirit was gently preparing me for.  Then in my subconsciousness my body felt the sudden urge to move.  Not move outside of my house but move closer to my chromebook so that I could sit up and write.

It is a new month and I have yet to really type out my focus and present a new blog but I can say that my mind has been very busy with ideas, lists, goals, and timelines that I must crank something out today.  Even though I successfully converted my Brown Sugar Magic book into a more focused Goal Setting and Success Coaching Guide that I want to convert into an email course or something… working on the logistics of that!  I’m doing all of this by myself, so I’m taking my time!

However lately, I have been on a quiet journey of re-centering myself because I’ve needed divine intervention in my thought processes while ultimately working on me.  Ironically light has transcended through me and I have been helping others not really thinking about it in that way.  I only know I’ve been helping because of the messages and encouragement I have received.  But in my readings today, two things stood out and they made my heart race just a little bit…  have I been Believe in your worth.

Release any doubts of your value.Believe in your worth.

Release any doubts of your value.pouring into others when I felt empty? and, am I truly preparing myself for what I want?

I did a live video the other day on my LaTilya Rashon “tilyarealeyes”page and while I got feedback, I said to myself that I was just beginning to scratch the surface of the work that I am doing on myself.  I’m going to do a follow-up to that video on my youtube channel soon but right now I’m just figuring some stuff out.

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I KNOW a lot of people, but the reality is I call very few my friends because as the seasons change and we grow individually, we realize that everyone does not nourish your soul in the same way.  We as people make mistakes in general and when we are working through those things, the last thing we want to feel is any type of memory that could reset your feelings towards those things.  This may seem like a ramble…but it’s not!  I’m just clearing the space in my head for the endured journey I am taking.

I wrote a while back about 3 Things I’m Completely Obsessing Over and Thing 3 was finding the BALANCE in my LIFE!  I am still very much my hardest critic.  As I examine my life, it is a canvas for others because I have a story to tell about how even when I block certain things out and jump over hurdles, I have NEVER just given up!  I am a walking billboard for beating statistics…I can’t wait to get that story told.

In the months to come I am going to unveil my life in a series of lessons I’ve learned.  It’s for my healing and for my growth.  I did not get this far because I wasn’t focused.  I got this far because I was driven…  I would be remiss to not mention that two awesome friends Yolanda and Ashley have spoke into my life a shift in careers so I am embracing their genuine sincerity.

There’s plenty of work to do and in by doing the work on myself I hope my transparency continues to transcend.  Some of the things to be tackled are:

  1. Growing up as a only child.
  2. My feelings towards my biological father.
  3. My first attempt at college…The University of Florida (2000-2001)
  4. My failed marriages (2003-2011) and (2014-2017)
  5. Transitioning careers (USAF, Child Support, Teaching, Writing, ____________)
  6. Expunged record of arrest from 2009…
  7. Financial Ruin and the Recovery Process.
  8. Trust and Intuition.
  9. Remaining positive during the storm.

I’m not empty, I’m just cautious.  We can still pour into others without completely tapping out.  I know and recognize my limitations as I work towards and prepare myself for the LIFE and LOVE I want. As I COACH myself, I hope you take away little nuggets along the way.

Isn’t ironic how on August 26, 2016 my thought process was I Don’t Want to Coach, I Just Want to Write but that was more so in the aspect of being a writing coach.  But I’m exploring a different avenue…Life and Success Coaching because my purpose is bigger than I innately realized in the beginning. For faith is substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

Research continues… Continue to follow my journey… Leave a nice comment or note and please share!

I am not perfect but I will use my voice to do what I do best…Teach Others How to Cope!

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Check On Your Strong Friend

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In a world of cliches’ it is very easy to get caught up in what’s trending?  Conversations about loyalty. Ideas about authenticity. And the thought that everyone around you is fighting a battle so practice being kind.  However being kind and turning a blind eye often gets you looked over, underappreciated, and becomes overwhelming to a fault.

Even when you practice the pause, you still have to show up for yourself and let others know just who the hell you really truly are.  I wrote this quick note to all of the strong people I know.  I’m checking for you!

A lot of the STRONG PEOPLE are:

  1. Dealing with life one day at a time because they have finally realized that trying to do too much at once is tiresome.
  2. Thinking of ways to better themselves so that they can continue to bless others even when their effort goes unnoticed.
  3. Face each day with greater expectations of being blessed by the small things because the little details are what matter the most.
  4. Suffer in silence because they would rather mask their disappointments than share with other people that really are glad to see them in turmoil.
  5. Deeply bothered by the lack of compassion and instead of lashing out; they cry tears that are washed away then face the world without a trace of sadness.
  6. Really just want to be asked if they are okay and if they say “No”; have someone who will listen to them without judging and say, “Good, I’m glad you got that off of your chest.”

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3 Things I’m Completely Obsessing Over

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In the second quarter of 2018, I find that I am more centered and focused on my holistic existence.  In a round about conversation with my mom this morning on my way to work I laid these words upon her ears, “If it does not feed my soul, I’m not interested.”

My mom is more than just the person I lean on most of the time, but she is truly my closest and most relied upon friend in my life.  Every time I talk to her I get life just by her listening to me and pouring her love and encouragement into me. And after last week I am completely obsessed with a couple of things in my life as I work towards accomplishing these new goals and tasks.

So here’s a little of the back story before I focus on those three things.  A teacher friend of mine down in Coastal Georgia purchased both of my books last week and left me with glowing reviews on her social media.  I am forever grateful because it’s not that I didn’t think that I had the power to be influential, I just had to let my presence be felt through my blog.  Being told, “Baby you gave me my fire and spark back!”, was right on time.

I was totally surprised when I checked my instagram (@tilyarealeyes) and realized that I had been tagged in a couple of post.  My work being acknowledged by one of my peers and someone I’ve know for a long time has me pumped about other things that I want to venture out and do.  So with that being said, now that it’s May here are the 3 things that I’m completely obsessing over in no particular order…

Thing 1:  I have been toying with the idea of a fictional book and while the story line is clear in my head, I don’t want to rush it.  I hear the characters speaking to me all of the time and I know that they cannot wait to continue telling their story.  Just understand that Lauren, Black, Kira, and Zamir are a trip!  However, the only reason this is a pressing matter for me is because I overthink every single thing I plan out for myself and really truly just want every thing to be perfect.  Then I have to remind myself that the first draft does not have to be perfect, it just has to get done.  There are some other pieces I’m working on simultaneously, but getting this fictional story out first is my priority.  I’m sure that through discipline and time management I can get this story out mid summer… WOOSAH!  No pressure, but I will get it done.

Thing 2:  I have been pinning my life away on pinterest as I sort through my feelings about life, love, friendship, and business.  It’s no secret that I like to have a cocktail or two and the liquor, beer, and partying industry is only flourishing.  I want to learn how to be a bartender.  For one, I think that it would be fun to learn how to do and secondly, I want to make extra cash on the side just to be honest.  I have a vision about bar-tending in my mind, that just like with anything else I set out to do… I WANT TO BE GOOD AT IT!  I’m also learning to that a lot of people are doing the same thing I’m doing— 1)perusing pinterest for ideas then 2) adding their own little twist to concoctions that basically have the same ingredients.  What can I say—bar-tending, story telling, and then blogging about would add the spice I want to add to my blog.

Thing 3: I am completely obsessed with maintaining balance in my life.  Ever since I decided to block out the noise and take inventory of myself, I’m much more at peace.  Placing my energy and focus into self-caring my way through this year has me centered and not focusing on the many things that can occur in a day that are out of my control.  I have taken charge of my life and plan to be my own hero when  need be.  I have to pour into myself more, encourage myself more, because as the strong person I am—I have neglected my peace of mind at times.  If I want consistency in all areas of my life, then I have to be consistent with myself.  Having balance in my life protects me from situations that are detrimental to my growth…I have to safeguard my heart, my intentions, and my conversations because my path in life thus far has been very enlightening and I just want to restore my well-being and be the best me that I know how to be.  I’m learning to dig deeper, listen to my intuition and trust my process.  I have never had an issue with self-love, but right now due to what I need in my life, what I’m allowing around me looks different.

As I continue to listen to my intuition more, I recognize what is real in my life.  I ran from one of my strongest attributes for a while.  I’m taking back my power each and every day and choosing me.  I’m glad that the lessons in my life have helped me to arrive here at a place of gratefulness.  I may be obsessing about things, but I’m focused and driven towards my personal victories and success.

3 Lessons I Have Learned Since Becoming A Teacher

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When I entered the field of education I had a five year plan which was quickly exceeded due to my determination and commitment to teaching.  I entered into the classroom not having the slightest clue about what to expect from my students but I learned very quickly.

I was certified through the Georgia Teacher Alterative Preparation Program (GATAPP) and I was taken aback by the amount of work that I had to do in order to gain my certification.  Let’s just be clear, there is a major difference in being traditionally trained through brick and mortar colleges of education and alternative programs.

I want to help new teachers acclimate to teaching and not be overwhelmed by the daily tasks and responsibilities and it is my hope that the lessons I’ve learned along the way will be helpful.

Today I am going to share my experience as I transitioned into teaching and how I found my calling in the classroom.  Come along for the journey!

Lesson 1: Transitioning Careers

In the back of my mind even in high school there was a thought that I would become a teacher.  I thought that I would major in English when I first went off to college and minor in Spanish because I had big dreams of completing a semester abroad in a Spanish country and broaden my horizons.  My educational journey didn’t quite happen that way.  I graduated high school in May of 2000, attended the University of Florida for a glorious year (July 2000-April 2001) then took a six year detour in the United States Air Force from August 2001 to August 2007 before ultimately landing in a middle school classroom.

I had big ideas when I first got out of the Air Force but much to my dismay those plans went to the left and I found myself unfulfilled in the civilian sector.

I’m a people person and while at times I can be off by myself rarely interacting with others and enjoying my life when I first got out of the military working for the Georgia Department of Human Services, that career path was not the choice for me.  So it made sense to plan an exit while still performing my duties as a Child Support Enforcement Agent.  I will be the first to say that the system is not fair and I saw a lot of struggling fathers do the best they could while some fathers simply dropped off the face of the earth.

Some of the noncustodial parents I encountered were decent in their efforts, but the office politics was enough to deter me from this career field and really put my education to work.  I knew that in the classroom I must showcase myself as a lifelong learner, and acquiring my master’s degree was a necessity.

I knew that my willingness to continue to learn was heavily influenced by my past teachers, and in transitioning careers, I wanted to give back to students what had been given to me in a positive way.

In my book, My Fourth Year in Middle School: The Truth About Teaching I share an experience I had with a middle school teacher and a high school teacher that fed the fuel inside of me to let education be my escape.  I learned that education was my stepping stone to a better future and I wanted children to believe in themselves the way I had while matriculating through school.

When I found my way pursuing a teaching career the natural leader in me accepted my calling.  Read an excerpt of my journey hear:

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Lesson 2: Maintaining Balance When My Life Was Falling Apart

My first three months into teaching looked vastly different from my third year of teaching.  And even now here in my 10th year of teaching I’m still learning things but coping with the copious changes and trends in education by the day.

As a new teacher is very easy to become overwhelmed with lesson plans, professional development, additional duties such as being a club sponsor or coaching, but I had to take care of my mental stability at the same time.  No one told me that in the beginning there are long hours and none of those hours are paid overtime.  No one told me that I would be in a meeting almost daily.  And lastly no one told me that I had to learn how to separate my home life from my work life and focus on them one at a time.

Needless to say in my second year of teaching I grappled with separation and divorce and my two young sons were on an insane schedule that shifted them to daycare by 6:30 a.m. while I had to be to school by 7:15 a.m. daily.  I cried so much this particular year of teaching but I had to find balance.

I had a school me and I had an at home me.  At school I didn’t talk about my personal life with anyone really other than my gracious mentor because I didn’t want pity or for anyone to feel sorry for me.  But my face was telling of my troubles at home.  At home my sons watched me cry often then wipe the tears away and carry on with my day even though I was screaming on the inside.

I had a job to do and I had to do my job despite my emotions being all over the place.  My family was a priority and so was my career.  I found my balance in letting go of the things out of my control and let all of the work I was doing speak for itself.  My school obstacles became the backdrop to my career which led me to want to help new teachers.

People think teaching is about holidays and summers off.  But a lot of times we become second parents to the children we teach and have to fight off jealousy from other teachers in order to be effective.  My students always showed up for me because I never not showed up for them.

Lesson 3: I Found My Purpose and Niche

Over the course of the years of teaching, I have acquired multiple degrees.  As mentioned I exceeded my five year plan which was to obtain an educational specialist degree.  I completed that degree program entering my third year of teaching.  I had no educational pedagogy so I wanted to learn more about curriculum, instruction, and assessments.  Being a lifelong learner propels my energy to help, teach, speak, and write.

As a blogger and teacher, my journey inside and outside of the classroom has been impactful to those that have sought my help.  Writing is my purpose and education/teaching is my niche.  My platform is my classroom.  And my audience is those that want to hear my stories and follow my career and I surge into a bigger light.

My book, my journey, my transitions in life give me a story to tell and I want to share my story and experiences as often as possible.  I am my brand.  My career and writings are my baby.  New teachers, old teachers, brick and mortar schools and alternative preparation programs need a voice that speaks from experience.  I have not degreed myself out of positions.  Being a lifelong learned has positioned me to take the stage.

I love teaching and it is in my DNA.  Go read a free sample of my journey and share my experiences.  My Fourth Year in Middle School: The Truth About Teaching is a worthwhile investment found on Amazon ($4.99 Ebook or $7.99 paperback).

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11 Summers of Reflection

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In a friendly conversation I was asked if I reflect on my life.  I had to resist saying, “Duh!” because it would have been childish, but it turned into a fruitful conversation and a serious train of thought for me.  Since coming into the new year, I promised myself that I wouldn’t dwell in the past, but some things are worth remembering.  Today I felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude and knew that I had to sit down for this blog post.

I separated from the Air Force in 2007, the summer of 2007 and here I am now, not working my 11th summer and still getting paid.  That is a blessing!  Not because I’m an educator, but it is a blessing that I have a career that I love and it frees up my time to pursue my passion during breaks and holidays.  My website and blog are my outlet to practice my writing skills as I crank out my inspirational nonfiction.  I never thought nonfiction would have been the genre of my first two books My Fourth Year in Middle School:  The Truth About Teaching (2016) and Brown Sugar Magic: Goal Setting and Reflections Journal (2017).

So here we go, 11 Summers of Reflection…

2007:  I was scared out of my mind to be separating from the Air Force after six years because I was concerned with finding a job.  It didn’t matter that I had earned two associates degrees, my bachelors, and was separating honorably, I was preparing in my mind for my future.  I settled into my new home back in my home state and pushed dozens of my resume and applications out.  I chose to go work for the Office of Child Support Services.  In eight months I learned that child support enforcement is not the kind of job I wanted.  Thankfully I was a forward thinker and able to move on.

2008: The summer of newness.  After working for the State of Georgia for a hot minute… I was impressive enough to secure interviews in April of 2008 to become a teacher.  So mid-way through my Master’s program leading into the summer, I was blessed enough to not work a second summer in a row, and still collect a check.  My Essentials to Teaching class was an eye-opener, but I was excited to take on a new challenge and start my new career as a teacher.  I had no idea what I was getting into.

2009:  This summer broke me just a little….  I had been with my high school crush since 2001 right before joining the Air Force, but at the end of my first year of teaching we had a MAJOR fight… the fight was the snowball to that marriage.  I celebrated my first year of teaching, the highs and lows.  I found love for the classroom and for the students I taught.  I moved forward with my career while crying my eyes out at night, but pulling it together to be SUPER mom for my boys.  We separated.  Tough Summer!

2010:  I had filed for divorce, experienced a fling with a blast from the past and when that didn’t work, I flew to Puerto Rico.  It was just the getaway that I needed.  Now there is no need for details, but being around a familiar and trustworthy face made the trip worth it.  We ate, we drank, we talked.  I loved him but we understood that our love was not to be explored beyond where we were at.  We were adults… still distant friends… Truly someone I will never forget.  I see his life now and I’m extremely happy for him.

2011:  I had completed my third year of teaching and I had some tough decisions to make.  Reconcile completely or not to reconcile at all.  Things were not adding up so I made a choice to walk away.  After someone says they don’t like the word marriage, you walk away.  I never work summer school, but one of my friends had the bright idea to start a book club and we had the most fun ever.  The book club fell to wayside because life happened but shortly after the summer, September to be exact, I was officially divorced.  After all according to that spouse, marriage was just a piece of paper.  Ain’t no way hell was I about that life.

2012:  This was my summer of sexy!  I had officially become a homeowner and hosted my housewarming party.  This was one of the most rewarding experiences I had in a lifetime.  Becoming a homeowner and decorating my home was the best feeling ever.  I could not have been more excited in this year of independence.  I loved every moment of my freedom to do as I chose.

2013: Summer of blur.  I was in a relationship.  It was fun.  It was combative.  Two summers post divorce, and second summer of home ownership.  I had tunnel vision and was completing my last required courses towards my doctorate.  I was trying to be a free spirit and finding myself all over again.

2014:  Let’s call this the summer of love.  I was smitten. I was engaged. I was a nervous wreck.  I was trying!  I think I tried and cried so hard this particular summer.  I honestly don’t know if I was coming or going.  But that is all apart of life.  The struggle to get to what is real.

2015:  The summer of laughter.  A beautiful summer of grilling, slip and slides for the kids, Tybee Island, Jekyll Island, and Summer Waves.  WE had fun…a lot of fun.  I was oblivious and living in the moment.  I was happy.  My boys were growing up and mama was having a life too.  Life could not have been more grand than what it was.

2016:  Revelations and Celebrations!  A year ago I was flying back from Fort Lauderdale after walking across the grand stage to receive my Doctorate of Education.  I was starting my “business” of writing and blogging and trying to figure things out.  I published my book and was on an emotional high.  Of course some things did not feel right in my marriage, but I took things in stride and accepted some harsh realities.  The highs of cruising to the Bahamas a second time, Florida, and family kept me motivated.  I was continuing to come into my own.

2017:  The journey to here!  I am elated to be standing because I know who I am.  I know the impact I have on my LOVED ones, and the RESPECT I have earned in my career, my family, my friends, and my life.  The story is still being written as I’m WRITING!  So do I reflect on my LIFE?  Hell yes I reflect on my life and I am forever grateful for all of my experiences.  The GOOD and the BAD.  The HURTFUL and the LOVING.

In my 11 summers I have made time for myself.  I love myself and the woman that I continue to become.  Others will wonder how I do it?  I’ll just say that it’s the drive and the God in me.  I’m not perfect, I’m original.

Live~Reflect~Write~Learn

LaTilya Rashon

I Define Who I Am

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WRITER:  I am who I am!  I am unapologetically crafty with words.  It is the very essence of my being the way I move words across the screen effortlessly.  I am in awe of others that do the same whether it is to freely express their feelings into written form just to share or even as those write with the ultimate purpose to make money.  Writer is only one title that defines who I am.  I am defined by my talent because I push it into the atmosphere.  As I constantly define my life and redefine who I am, I am not deterred by setbacks.  To no end I am pleased with the steps I have taken to set myself up to share my thoughts and inspiration for those to grab hold of.  As I keep prioritizing my goals and dreams, I urge anyone to obtain a copy of Brown Sugar Magic as a guide to help you in the right direction.

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Now this is not a just a plug about my last book even as I continue to work on my writing and do some educational consults and writing.  This blog is about the titles that define me.  Unless you walk a day in my shoes you have no idea how much of a blessing my life really truly has been.  I do not dwell of what I cannot change.  I have changed myself from within and I am HEALED from my PAST because it does not DEFINE me!

DAUGHTER:  My mom worked too hard for me not to be GREAT!  Growing up as a “latch-key” kid and becoming independent at a very young age has carried well over into adulthood.  The amount of love and respect I have for my mom spills over into how I love and nurture my children.  As a daughter I have become my moms confidant and I continue to learn so much from her about resiliency and not allowing your troubles to last.  I’m the daughter that my biological father misses out on because I have exceeded expectations thrown on me by society as a “Fatherless Daughter”.  Everyday has not been a walk in the park.  As with anyone if you lose a companion, friend, or spouse you have moments of doubt and utter confusion.  I am the daughter of King who knows that is has been nothing but the grace of God that has walked with me through troubled waters.  Be careful about who you judge!  I have favor over my life, I know where my help comes from.

MOTHER:  I cannot get enough of my sons.  They are everything!  That says so much in such few words.  I love and take care of my sons the way my mother took care of me. Watching my babies grow up over the past few years from elementary to them both being in middle school next year I am emotional.  It has not been easy finding balance, co-parenting, and accepting things that are out of my control.  I certainly did not like experiencing my family being torn apart when they were younger, but they have ADJUSTED extremely well.  I am the ONLY mother they have and they know I will give my life to save them from any dangers.  I’m selfless when it comes to my SONSHINES!  They will definitely remember the tough lessons, mistakes, and decisions that have been made in their best interest.  Spare the rod, spoil the child (Proverbs 13:24).

TEACHER:  I interviewed in May 2008 and walked into my first pre-planning session July 2008.  I have told the story before about one teacher telling me I’d never have a job because of my attitude when I was 13 years old.  Well here I am now, 35 years old with 16 years of VALUABLE work experience that is a mixture of my career choices and education.  I am so glad to be moving up to high school after nine years at the middle school level.  I think sometimes people think that my profession defines all areas of my life, but let me tell you a secret…IT DOES NOT!  I have a REAL life outside of school and the kids are the worst sometimes because they tend to think that we have been adults our whole lives.  That’s until I tell them some of my childhood stories to show my HUMAN side.  Yes I’m a teacher that builds relationships with my students and that’s why I LOVE what I do.  CAREER and EDUCATION choices MATTER!

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FRIEND:  The title of friend I hold close to my heart because I either fool with someone or I don’t.  I am never swayed by what someone thinks of me or other people that matter to me.  One of my good friends has opened my eyes to just living in the NOW.  Too bad some people don’t know how to leave some things alone and let people LIVE.  When you go looking for problems with people to report to your friends, that says more about YOU the investigator and instigator than it could ever say about the other person.  My TRUE friends know that I have a heart of gold and I rarely hold back my thoughts. I have learned to drop the rope and not engage. I am NOT going to be liked by everybody and that is okay.  I ACCEPT that!  See I am not what or who other people say I am.  I am a friend to those who show me genuine adoration and respect because I give them that of me in return.  I am a friend to those who seek my guidance and honest help because the truth is the truth.  I have learned how to be more vulnerable in my friendships and not be so STRONG because I have a life full of AWESOME things to be THANKFUL for.  The ability to have friends that SUPPORT you in good times and in bad times is admirable.  I am one of those that stand by in good times, bad decisions, confusing moments until WE get it back right!

I am defined by my actions.  I am not defined by the chapter of my life that you walked in on.

~LaTilya Rashon