“Well behaved women seldom make history.”
I will definitely be the first to admit that when it comes to writing I am extremely protective of my words and the last thing I want to have happen is someone dislike my point of view. But guess what…it happens and it is what it is.
However, as I continue to move forward with writing and exposure I understand that I must keep writing to getting better as I work on other projects (specifically books) that I hope to engage a greater following.
Diving into what’s socially acceptable or not is a slippery slope and being too careful can make you boring. But the realistic goal at the end of the day is to create a spark around your name. I have heard the questions about why I write about the things I post and how my content shifts from branding to personal, but in reality this is my style. I am working on staging my work to show my progress as a writer/blogger and self-published author because I am my brand. I want to do things myself (have complete creative control), so as I take my time to get some things done behind the scenes, please understand that this is indeed a massive process.
Some of the blogging experts suggest pushing for tasty content…
What are you trying to teach someone? What expertise do you bring to the issue and trending topic? How will your insight transform the minds of those that follow your action steps and why they should listen to you? I learned the need to be tasty while tuned into a live session one night with one of the notables. On the other hand there is another expert that simply says all authors should have a blog because it sharpens your skills. I have negated my ideas of me being my brand…and just when I was supposed to have a photo shoot to do some promo shots for my website and do what I thought was best for my website and image those plans fell through… It Simply Was Not Time!
Socially Acceptable Behavior
I’m glad I’ve taken the time to regroup and reconsider what I need to do for me. My social media platforms garner attention in several ways and the whispers have spread into full out conversations about my uncensorship in some areas and my overly outright spoken feelings in other areas. Just yesterday a colleague laughed with me about my snapchat (@tilyarealeyes) diaries. I use it to vent, to laugh, and to BS my way through the day sometimes. It’s all in fun. And as us creatives, business-minded, entrepreneurs work out our niches it is easy to be “polarized by the criticism of others”. We see it day after day from everyday people like me that create with care on up to celebrities that post a simple picture because they are living their life that keeps us all highly entertained.
I am sure that as I continue to share my voice, my thoughts, my concerns, and my journey there will be someone standing on the sideline with a sign that reads…”Not a fan!” But I can’t be concerned with the negative questions and thoughts of others because they are not in my shoes running this race. It would be too easy to just scroll pass what someone dislikes because they feel that their opinion is needed and justified.
I have played around on my platforms and while it’s a process to build my presence online it’s not the people that I don’t know with the questions and fake concern, it’s the ones close by that I know personally that have the most to say about what I’m writing. I write about my real life and real experiences. So hearing that I’m “heavy” on social media made me chuckle a little and damn near put me on the defense. Who are these people to question what I’m doing? And just to be clear I am too busy building my name to worry about what others don’t understand about what I’m doing. I have sparked a conversation so evidently I’m doing something RIGHT!
I completely separate my personal life and my blogging life. What I write about may be influenced by my day to day but my LaTilya Rashon blog, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter will depict what I want to have. This hat as a writer and continuously improving author is completely different than my everyday job as a teacher. I can teach people about life (love, relationships, parenting, coping, and simply LIVING) on my blog and how to cope with shit on a regular basis.
The struggle is real when no one understands your vision and what plans you have for your career. My being socially acceptable on my platforms is for me to decide without the negative criticism of others. I said a long time ago that people find favor in you when they like what you have to say and represent. But I’ve also learned the lesson that my friends are not my target audience so I’m never surprised by the local feedback or lack thereof.
I am constantly thinking of ways to be impactful with my writing and the out pour I receive from inbox messages, reshares of my blog post, and new followers edges me along. I appreciate all of the support and encouragement I receive!
I welcome all feedback because I have made up in my mind that nothing will deter me and I will not stop because others think that I should.
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