Ironically three years ago to date I married my second now divorced husband and I’m not even sad about what would have been. What could have been. Nor where I am at now. I have been dropping jewels along the way giving everyone insight to how I feel and where I am at, so just know that I’m good.
I heard a speaker a week ago that said, “I cannot walk into my future with my foot in my past” (Tommie Mabry). It’s funny how the stars align and things I said seven months ago are being confirmed on a daily basis. Especially the notion of not dwelling on the past. I have learned some hard lessons over this past year and I am truly glad that I did not allow my obstacles to stunt my growth.
I mean let’s be honest. If I were upset right now. I would have every reason to be because of the rocks that have been thrown at me. But taking my own advice, I am being very careful about what I give my energy to.
I watched one of my favorite movies today and in the opening the main character said, “There’s two things people have to find out about themselves. They have to find out about love and they have find out about living.”
I am finding that love comes in many forms as well along with change. The love you have for your life, your family, your career, and your interests ultimately fuels your existence. You are given one life and many times over you will make mistakes. However, those mistakes become your lessons and your badge of courage to dare to do something different.
The love you have for your family, immediate or extended trumps all love because there is nothing you wouldn’t do for them. Even your friends, because through the years your friends become some of your most relied upon people in your life. Blood or water, you recognize family by the love you receive from them. The love for your career feeds your passion and your drive…I’m a mother FIRST, teacher second, and blooming writer. I’m still niching things out! Lastly your interests… I would rather try a million things than try nothing at all and live a boring life.
I’m so interested in living that I am not taking anything for granted. I can say that at times in my life I was consumed by love and the the approval of my significant other that in this present time I have decided to just be happy-go-lucky me. And by that I mean sometimes you have to live through the deceitfulness of others and realize that that is not your battle to fight. You have to live through the heartbreak and be glad you have another chance at love. That even means you have to live through some brutal honesty and accept what is. “Accepting what is” does not mean be a fool it just means that you recognize situations for what they are and don’t push pass it.
Living in the moment may be instant gratification for some and prolonged disappointment for others, but at any rate it is complete joy to be present in whatever environment you are in and taking it all in. One friend says that he sacrifices his happiness for responsibility. I don’t agree with him while on the other hand another friend gives no shits about the opinions of others and just lives.
My interactions daily enlighten me on how people approach life, deal with life, and understand life. There is no right or wrong way to live as long as you are not maliciously out to hurt people. It is not what comes out of your mouth that defiles you, but what you feel in your heart. Sadly some people think they have the monopoly on sadness, hurt, deceit, and being broken-hearted. But no one holds the monopoly on feelings. You live, you learn, and you move the hell on.
Live and let live. The love you so freely give will be given to you in return. The light you shine as you live will be turned on you and will forever shine bright. So what must we learn…don’t force it… Love or Living…
A lot of times we give off more than we ever receive…