So on March 10, 2016 I revamped my blog, switched over to wordpress after leaving blogspot and a stream of creativity has taken over.
A year ago I was living a life that I was pretty sure was pretty content not knowing that in the months to come that that life would be shaken up.
A year ago I was super elated to find out that my Internal Review Board (IRB) had been approved for my dissertation so all I had to do was edit my chapters four and five and be primed and ready to submit my final report roughly around the beginning of May 2016.
A year ago I hunkered down and decided to finish my first writing project. My chromebook was permanently attached to my hand so everyone around me knew that whatever I was doing had to be serious.
A year ago seems so far away compared to where I am now. It’s been a year and http://www.tilyarealeyes.com has matured into grown woman status.
I look back at my experimental titles and it is clear that I was working on my niche. I was inundated by creating email lists (I finally created the right lead in and magnet campaign), and trying to figure out how to make myself standout in the crowd. I played around with all of my social media and just felt like I was floundering. I even wrote about it in my epic blog turned free download, What No One Tells You About Blogging. I tried several things and now I feel like I’m finding my groove.
So what is my niche?
Interestingly enough writing about life and the realities we face as people comes naturally. There is a lot of experience inside of my compact frame and as I share my perspectives I inadvertently influence streams of consciousness. Everything I share is based on observation, conversation, and my original spin of the subject matter.
A year later, “tilyarealeyes” has expanded its categorical reach. The short stories have peeked interest and needs to be revisited. I’ve just had a lot going on. The List Series is a major hit and because my Soror/Bestie Karimah encouraged me to do videos last summer, and since then I have made 4 in 2017. The 7 Things You Should Do in 2017 has been my signature statement because I have found a new lease on life, and I’m happily divorced and simply living. My soror/lil Tori spoke about seven being the number of completion when I published that blog. Ironically I met a man whose birthday is the 7th day of January on his birthday. He is symbolism at it’s finest.
It’s been a year and I have two books out there that I don’t even think that at the time of beginning to blog again, I would have taken that risk. I play it very safe with my words and my talent. Because I am so hard on myself the thought of someone else criticizing (unless it’s positive) my words makes me nervous. I’m a situational perfectionist. I am very protective of me. However, I am most proud of Brown Sugar Magic because of the message of affirmation, reflection and celebration that I am trying to have women establish about themselves.
A year later I have learned through experience the value of being goal oriented. Had I not established the specific goals I had set for myself, there is no way I could advise my Brown Sugar Sisters on how to be SMART about the things they set out to do.
Writing my second published project I had to be in touch with my needs. Being happy and having esteem of myself kept me focused. Sometimes we get lost in the sauce but that does not equate to not addressing your needs. I had to address the desires of my heart and realize that I needed to safeguard my energy. I can’t afford to get worked up about situation that have already been worked out beyond my control.
I had to rely on the love I have for myself as I wrote part three of Brown Sugar Magic. Loving myself more made room for me to work through my disappointments. My life took a hit, but I forgive myself for my bad choices. I trust that everything happens for a reason. I revamp and revise my goals on the regular. I am able to stay the course because of my self-love.
As I closed out Brown Sugar Magic, my key thing was to highlight the fun you should be having. I am having the time of my life tending to me and not being tied down by titles or expectations. That does not mean I am closed up and living like a hermit. That means that I have the liberty to love who I choose without expectation.
A year later my life has changed but I am living a more abundant life than I ever could have imagined. The things I am experiencing takes me to a different place. My conversation has changed. My ambition is in overdrive. I am focused on building my brand, “LaTilya Rashon”, and being the best “influencer” I can be.
2017 has opened my eyes. I’m walking this walk with my eyes wide open. I am not naive to the negativity. A year later my blog has grown into more mature conversation but so has my mindset as the woman behind the blog.
No subliminal messages. No hidden agendas. When you know who you are, you become a target and a threat. Do the work and reflections in Brown Sugar Magic and you will reclaim your life like never before.
A year ago I was defining marriage. A year later I am encouraging self-actualization. Unleash your magic!