The Meaning of TilyaRealEyes…“The Educated Butler”
TilyaRealEyes has been around for a long time since my first blog when I was registered with blogspot. I had so many things going with me in 2010 that I needed and outlet because I was beginning to realize a lot about my life, about myself and about my situation.
When you look at my first name, LaTilya, I just decided that TilyaRealEyes was befitting because I was also seeing the transformation in my thought processes, my level of maturity, my growth as a woman, and facing divorce after accepting my separation for what it was. I was realizing that my life was going to be what I made it.
I began writing as my escape to unload my feelings out into the atmosphere to begin my healing process. I was devastated by the events of my marriage and I had to find a way to let it all go to an unbiased, listening ear that would not hush me or tell me that I was being overly sensitive. Tilya, as is I, was realizing that I had to take care of me or the anger was going to consume me. I was seeking God, I was venting, and I was secretly hoping that my estranged husband would stumble on my words and see my hurt. Through TilyaRealEyes, I established my voice and realized that I had the strength to take control of my life and turn my life into a platform free of judgement filled with encouragement and transparency to others who have experienced loss and humiliation in life.
I initially bared my soul and deepest thoughts into my blog, but I became stagnant and the blogspot went to the way side.
Now as I have revamped my blog, I have moved past the heartbreak and now I want to use my platform to speak and write about persevering through tough situations and hardships. I want to talk about having the discipline to stay committed to your endeavors no matter how overwhelming life gets. The reality is, “Shit happens!” Everyday will not be glittery rainbows, and you will want to cry and just throw everything down and walk away. TilyaRealEyes snatches you back to reality and encourages you to stay true to yourself, your goals, your ambition, and recommit to your life. I share my struggles and how I have grown to represent the best authentic version of me. Free of crippling insecurities and full of thought-provoking vulnerabilities.
I want my readers to feel inspired and keep checking back for updates and inspiration for their lives. I would like my audience to know the woman behind the words. My writing demonstrates my emotions as I work on other things such as books and various ideas that float through my mind.
So on one layer I deal with life, the good the bad and the ugly. The unpredictable, mundane, and the melancholy. But on a philosophical note, I am also “The Educated Butler”.
The Educated Butler is my teacher hat where I systematically discuss issues that arise in education that I see daily as a classroom teacher. It is a play on my profession and legal last name combined. As an educator I hear the complaints from teachers, students, administrators, and parents and this drives me to be the non-standard leader. I will rock my hair shaved on one side. Be down to earth with my colleagues, but wear my professionalism where it is needed. I don’t like the feeling of my hands being tied with the constant reforming of educational policies. So I’m taking it upon myself to share my perceptions about new teachers, classroom management, teacher retention, and all things related to education. I’m striving to be a change agent, reshaping the look of leadership.
Since receiving my Doctor of Education degree, people look at me like I have three eyes, waiting to see what direction my life and career is about to take. Ironically, my drive makes me want to inform others of the ills and wills of education. I love my career, and I’m a firm believer that I am most beneficial to students whom I identify with. Until I have a major career change, I’m satisfied being The Educated Butler due to my various degrees and my quest for knowledge.
Check out my debut book My Fourth Year in Middle School: The Truth About Teaching which gives your personal stories of my teaching journey so far. I bring relevance and credibility to The Educated Butler.
Now you know the meaning of my site. I am TilyaRealEyes, The Educated Butler! Ask me anything and I will gladly help you realize your truth.